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No, “we” do not need to find Prince Harry a wife – leave the man alone!

As of late, I have seen more and more chatter about how “we” need to find Prince Harry a wife. In short, no we do not. Even Prince Harry does not need to find himself one. There are multiple reasons why the 5th in line to the throne does not need to settle down.

If his father, Prince Charles’ mistakes in love aren’t reason enough, I am not sure what is. Prince Charles was pressured by his father and those around him into finding a bride, the 32-year-old (same age Harry is now) crumbled to the pressure of marrying Harry’s mother, Diana, Princess of Wales all in order to secure the future of the monarchy. Sure they marriage resulted in two beautiful babies but the two were not suited to each other and in the end caused each other a lot of hurt and pain. Thankfully for Harry, he is not first-in-line so he does not have quite the same level of pressure although with Queen Elizabeth and Prince Philip aging and unable to take on as many duties as they once did, many are calling for Harry to step up and find a wife who can help fill the void.

I am unsure of the background of these people calling for Harry to wed, but either they had an easy dating life or have long forgotten the trials of dating. For those of you in the latter let me remind you. There are mind games, hurt feelings, drama, heartbreak (along with all the wonder aspects), but more times than not it does not end the way you would have thought or hoped. I for one am glad that I don’t have to enter the dating world again! Now try doing this in front of the international media, who judge every move in your relationship. If you thought the pressures from your parents were hard, try every newspaper, magazine,and web page doing the same.

In most dating situations boy meets girl, they like each other, don’t know each others background, maybe Google one another, but have the chance to ask questions and learn about their partner. Now when Harry meets a girl, he probably knows nothing or very little about her. She, however, will know much more about him, even if it is untrue rumors, and will have already made her mind up about him. The dynamic of the relationship will be very different. Harry also has to deal with the fact that almost every girl he meets will know him and he will have to figure out if she likes him for him or if she is after his title. Sad, but a huge part of his dating life.

Then, even if she is not interested in his title, will she be willing to take it on anyway? Being royalty sounds fun but it is a lot of hard work. Will she fold under the pressures of the media and grueling schedules of tours? While I can’t say I have ever experienced anything to the level that Harry has to go through I have been the subject of the media in the past for a short two weeks, all which included motorcades, my own security guard, paparazzi and media, and strict schedules of event after event. I had a great time but it was not easy functioning on little sleep and always having to be upbeat and personable no matter how many hands you have shook and people you have talked to. You must ignore the negative people (there is always at least one) and be the person all those waiting for you want you to be.

On top of all this, this dream girl has to give up the career she has worked hard for (and ironically had to have while they were dating to make her suitable). When Prince William was dating Kate, the media consistently was at her for not having a job. She did work for a time as a buyer for Jigsaw, which fortunately let her have a flexible schedule so she could work around William’s but she knew once they got married her full-time career would be as the Duchess. Not all jobs are so flexible with time though. Prince Edward married Sophie in 1999 and she was determined to keep her regular job in public relations. It did not last long, in 2002 she was forced to give it up due to controversy and her and Edward took on full-time royal duties.

Harry has made it clear in the past that he does wish to get married, so can we please all give him a break and let him figure this one out on his own? Dating is certainly not easy, even more so as a prince.

What are your thoughts? Should Prince Harry settle down for the sake of the monarchy or wait until he finds “the one”? Let us know in the comment section below:

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